April 13th, 2009 
Aman Swami Vivekananda used to say that word carry only a miniscule part of the import we want to convey. It is but the inner strength our inner Ojas that does the real and effective speaking. Sawamiji himself is a burning example of this fact. When he stood up to speak before the American audience already having made up its mind about the ‘native Hindu monk from the land of the snake charmers’, the hall was almost vacated because of disdain. But when Sawamiji spoke a miracle was believed to have happened-we all know that. The same quality can be attributed to people across boundaries of nations and historical chapters-right from Buddha, Shankaracharya to Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King-where and when they spoke, the world listened. Pandit Nehru’s” Tryst with destiny” and Atal Bihari’s maiden Hindi speech in the United Nations are other examples. There was something common-they believed in what they said-every word of it.
From now onwards Eternal Solutions starts a new chapter on reading and understanding body language and finding the real import behind the words one speaks, the gestures one shows knowingly or unknowingly. It shall help us understand our relationships, our work atmosphere and direct us to put that extra behind what we want to convey and what we want to know about those who matter to us or to those we want to matter. Even astrologically there are specific conjunctions, house traits and planets which are assigned with the power of speech, the gestures and the effectiveness of communication. There are people who have much to say but do not know how to convey-and there are people who come across initially as having much to offer but in the long run turn out to be empty.
Even modern studies suggest that verbal (meant by words) communication makes a miniscule part of the total impact of a message. It is very clear with children and sometimes with animals like birds, cows and dogs. If you approach them with love they automatically understand. It is interesting to note that many scholars and experts opine that only about 35% of the impact we make through communication or our behavior has to do with the verbal component. And even within this only about 6-8 percent is through words-rest all is through our non-vocal or verbal gestures.
There are five means through which we perceive objects or any person-rest is processed later. Then things get coloured and we see things through our own personal, cultural and experiential filters. Suppose you have had a bad past with a name similar to somebody you are meeting right now-you shall automatically have a reaction even before the person has started speaking. And chances are that you shall end up making your mind-build prejudices for the person holding the name borrowed from the traumas in your memory associated with that name. We all know that guys with a deep baritone have heady effect on women. But not necessarily all men with a baritone are good individuals. Suppose you feel very good about the letters or e-mails that one of your long lost and distant friends sends to you. Chances are that you might interpret that she must be in good health. Soon enough she calls you up and you find a deep low in her voice. Then you come to understand that she might seems to be healthy and high but now you have seen that original low through her voice that probably she might be trying to hide.
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